In today's fast-paced world, where stress and anxiety seem to be constant companions, many of us find ourselves grappling with excessive worry and fears that seem to have no basis in reality. Have you ever stopped to check and see if all of those worrisome thoughts that kept you up at night ever came to fruition? Why do we carry the weight of imagined problems on our shoulders, letting them dictate our every move and decision? My journey and experiences have led me to the realization that the root of this excessive fear lies in unresolved or unacknowledged trauma and my deep, unconscious desire to prevent it from happening again.
Trauma doesn't always mean some massive event where something terribly tragic happened. Trauma can be "smaller" than that too. What ultimately matters here is to see that trauma leaves wounds, and if those wounds are not healed they pollute your interpretation of reality, creating a different version that suits the best interest of something other than the real you. It is my opinion that a lot of companies and corporations are getting rich off your false reality. They want you to believe something about yourself and the world you live in so that you behave a particular way so that you purchase their products.
It's intriguing to observe how so many individuals are unknowingly acting out past traumas in their day-to-day lives. Instead of addressing and processing the pain they endured in the past, they bury it deep within, putting on a façade of an unaffected, "normal" self to the world. Little do they know that this facade is not only detrimental to their mental well-being but also impacting their relationships, friendships, and overall sense of fulfillment in life.
How do I know this? Because I lived it.
Living in a state of denial and avoidance may temporarily shield one's vulnerabilities from the world, but in the long run, it creates a hollow existence filled with unfulfilled promises of happiness in something that is not attainable ever. The joy and relief you seek is always one more thing away. Many individuals believe that by retiring or achieving certain milestones, they will then find the contentment and joy they have worked so hard and sacrificed so much for, only to realize that they've been duped, tricked, conned, misled, followed someone else's plan for them, and so forth.
The lack of purpose someone experiences in their life when they begin to sense that they've been mislead about what they are supposed to do with their life (i.e. pursue The American Dream) can sometimes lead to an addictive cycle of excessive worry, followed by the longing for relief, followed by substance abuse, followed by destructive behavior(s), followed by more worry and anxiety. The vicious cycle of building one's life up, only to tear it down again, is a common theme for those who grapple with unresolved traumas and fears. It's no surprise that some of us turned to addictive substances as a coping mechanism, finding solace in a temporary escape from our inner turmoil. However, this destructive pattern only perpetuates the cycle of pain and avoidance, trapping individuals in a web or a trap that they can't even see.
Acknowledging and confronting past traumas is not an easy feat, but it is a crucial step towards healing and breaking free from the chains of fear and worry. By opening up about our struggles and seeking support, we can begin to unravel the hidden traumas that have been holding us back, paving the way for genuine connections and a more meaningful life.
In a world where distractions and quick fixes abound, choosing to face our inner demons head-on may seem daunting. However, for those brave souls who dare to peel back the layers of denial and self-deception, a path to true liberation and inner peace awaits. Joy begins to flow again!
How do I know this? Because I am living it.
So, the next time you catch yourself drowning in worry or seeking refuge in addictive behaviors, pause and reflect on the possibility that there might be deeper wounds that need healing. Embrace the discomfort of facing your truth, for it is in that vulnerability that true strength and resilience are born.
The journey to uncovering the truth behind our excessive worry and addictive tendencies begins with acknowledging the existence of hidden traumas that linger beneath the surface. I did this by sitting still long enough and learning how to breath properly in order for a slew of game-changing insights started flooding my mind. I write exactly how I did it in my book, "Hollow." Only by bravely confronting our past pains can we pave the way for a future filled with authentic relationships, genuine fulfillment, and boundless self-discovery.
Long story short: I'm saying to you that the fulfillment you are seeking will happen only when you begin healing. You don't begin healing in the future; you can't - it doesn't even exist yet. The fearful, worried part of you that is in hiding is also the part that is telling you to wait until _____________is over and then you'll begin. I wouldn't wait any longer if I were you, haven't you waited long enough?
Jake Paul
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